Staying on Course
“I can’t change this, but I can conquer it.”
– Unknown
Introduction
- On the path to your goal, you may feel frustrated when you encounter roadblocks that require taking a detour and solving problems
- Solving problems can be stressful!
- Stress and frustration can lead to feelings of discouragement
- Staying on course toward your goal is about addressing and managing stress, frustration and discouragement
Peer Support
- In the Healthy Reactions session of this workshop, we learned that our feelings come from thoughts rather than from the events or circumstances of our lives
- The same is true for encouragement
- Peers and friends encourage us by changing our thoughts
- This gives us hope that we can solve our problems
- We can be an encouraging friend to ourselves in the same way
Self Talk
- In the last section, we talked about the encourager as someone whose supportive words challenge discouragement
- In a way, we each have an encourager in our minds who can lift us up when we feel discouraged
- You may need to develop your encouraging inner voice so you feel less discouraged
- Unfortunately, the inner voice inside us may be who is discouraging, negative and belittling
- The negative voice criticizes your mistakes and faults, instead of being positive and hopeful about your ability to move forward
- When frustration hits, which voice do you listen to?
- If you listen to the negative for too long, you can begin to doubt your ability to solve problems
Building Momentum
- For many of us, it is not enough to silence our negative and discouraging inner voice in order to stay on course toward our goals
- We also need to wake up our supportive encouraging voice
- We need to hear that we are good and can solve problems and achieve our important goals
- We need to challenge the discouraging voice and invite the encouraging one
- To do this, watch for your successes and begin to expect that you will continue to be successful
Discouragement & Depression
- When you are frustrated and discouraged, your feelings can spiral downward
- It can feel like steps, from frustrated to angry to discouraged to depressed
- At times like this, everyone could use help to climb back up